There’s always that person in your life you admire from afar—the funny but intelligent co-worker, the admirable boss with a kick-ass routine, or even that friend of yours who can get just about anyone in your office to smile.


Well, here’s the big secret you’ve probably never thought to tell yourself: That could be you, too. Seriously, being well-liked by others doesn’t involve casting a spell or engineering a great illusion. Gaining respect at work, making lots of friends, or acting as a great leader isn’t only for some special people. It’s a skill that just about anyone can pick up—and pretty quickly, in fact.


In this article, I am going to share 4 ways to be more likeable at work. So, without further ado let's get started:


1. Call people by their name

People enjoy hearing their own names. What they don't enjoy is being referred to by their title, or not being referred to at all. Calling someone by name makes him or her feel special and shows that you care about him or her as an individual, not just in the context of a need. Extending requests or updates with an actual conversation can be beneficial as well. For instance, walking by someone's desk and saying, "Hey, I need that report by the end of the day today," has a totally different impact than just stopping by and saying, "Hey Bobby. How are you doing? By the way, could I have that report from you by the end of the day?"


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2. Look for the positive in every situation

Pessimists don't win many friends. Bringing up your negative feelings about a situation, even though the situation itself might be unfavourable, is a sure way to alienate your co-workers and bring the entire mood of the establishment down. Instead, always look for the bright spot. Make positive comments about each situation you encounter, and walk around with a smile on your face. This simple change can help others associate you with positive ideas and feelings, and as a result, you will be more well-liked.


3. Avoid competition when possible

Unfortunately, but not surprisingly, most offices in the United States are extremely competitive environments. Workers compete for promotions, recognition, and sometimes even pride. However, once you are seen as a rival, people will avoid you and may even come to dislike you. Create no unnecessary competitions, whether on a small or large scale. For example, don't go out of your way to take credit for a collective project, don't undermine someone, and don't squeeze someone's hand too hard while shaking their hand.


4. Provide help, and ask for favours

Humans are social creatures that get along by helping one another. We are evolutionarily programmed to recognize and respect those who help us as well as those who we help. As a result, the more you assist others—and the more they assist you—the deeper your connections will form and the more likeable you will be. Go out of your way to assist those in need, and never be afraid to ask for a favour in return.


Thanks for reading, have a wonderful day:)