How To Not Care What Others Think

We all want to be liked and admired for our various abilities, ferocious intellect, excellent nature, and sparkling personality.

But we get into trouble when we start to rely on what other people think of us and make their opinion crucial to our success. We start to change our lives to meet the expectations of others, and the cycle continues.

When we hand over our authority to others and allow their perceptions to shape our identity, we lose sight of who we truly are. We can only perceive ourselves as we imagine others view us.

So, how can you stop caring about what other people think? Here are some tips to try:

Focus On What Is Important

Imagine your available attention to be a glass with a limited capacity. You get to pick what goes in the glass, but the amount you can put in is limited by the glass. You have a limited amount of mental energy at your disposal. 

Great public speakers have a technique of reducing nervousness. The more they concentrate on their message, the effect they want to have, and the demands of their audience, the less mental energy they have to dedicate to their butterflies, making a mistake, or the fact that the presentation could make or break their career.

So, whether you're applying for a job, pitching a new customer, writing a book, submitting a blog post, dancing, or asking for a raise, the more you can concentrate on the work at hand, the less energy you'll waste worrying or being fearful.

Remind Yourself That No One Cares

The irony of feeling bad about ourselves because of what others might think of us is that others have far fewer opinions about us—both positive and negative—than we think. 

According to studies, we continuously overestimate how much others think about us and our flaws, resulting in excessive inhibition and a lower quality of life. If your followers or neighbours were thinking about you, they could have a negative opinion of you, but they aren't. When you're feeling self-conscious, notice how much you're thinking about yourself. You can safely assume that everyone else is doing something similar.

Remember That Everybody Makes Mistakes

Expecting perfection is foolish because it is unachievable. More importantly, judging someone for not being flawless is counterproductive, unfair, and absolutely useless.

Keep in mind that everyone who criticises you for little mistakes has made mistakes themselves.

Making mistakes in business or in personal relationships can also be a valuable part of self-development. Think of them as chances for learning and being human.

Rebel Against Your Shame

Because fear of shame is often at the root of an excess of interest in other people's opinions, we should tackle our shame head-on. When we say something hurtful to another person out of spite or impatience, a little shame is appropriate and warranted. However, it is frequently ridiculous, such as feeling embarrassed because you mistakenly left your fly unzipped. I don't recommend you to stroll around with your fly down on purpose. But ask yourself, "What am I hiding that makes me feel a bit embarrassed?" Choose not to hide it any longer, and let go of the useless shame that has been holding you back.

Surround Yourself With Supportive People

Friends and family members who are always judgmental of you might have a negative impact on your mental health. It's really painful to know that someone you care about has a negative opinion of you.

Maintaining mental health requires developing relationships with people who accept you for who you are and who are supportive and ready to speak about it – even if they might be a little "judgy" at times.

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