6 Signs You Are A Shy Extrovert

Introverts value their alone time because it helps them to recharge their energy levels. They enjoy small doses of social interaction, but they are not necessarily shy.

Shy extroverts, on the other hand, want to engage with people but find it difficult to do so. Their fears or high expectations about who they associate with prohibit them from recharging their energy through social engagement.

So, how can you tell if you are a shy extrovert? Here are 6 signs you are a shy extrovert:

You Love Parties But Aren’t The Life Of The Party

Shy extroverts like being in social situations, but they don't feel compelled to be the centre of attention. You might not speak up during the party if you don't believe your jokes are funny or if you don't always enjoy talking about yourself. Shy extroverts may become great "people watchers" because they like observing people around them.

Most people enjoy talking about themselves, and shy extroverts usually feel more at ease when they are not under fear of being judged. They might develop a secret superpower called inquisitiveness, which can give them a huge social advantage.

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Meeting Old Friends Excites You

Your shyness fades into the background when you're around people you know well. You won't have to deal with awkward thoughts about how to break the ice or worry if they like you because these people already know who you are.

When you're invited to a gathering of old friends, you're excited to go.

You Don't Worry If The Talk Becomes Silent

Introverts usually don't know what to say or how to keep the conversation going when they're talking. Extroverts, on the other hand, enjoy having conversations and will most likely talk nonstop.

A shy extrovert might like having chats with breaks in between. This gives them time to think, organise their thoughts, and figure out how to effectively continue the conversation. This form of silence irritates complete extroverts because it makes them feel as though the energy is fading. Most likely, they'd try to avoid it by talking more or doing something else.

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You Are Very Good At Keeping Secrets

Shy extroverts genuinely like listening to others, and they have no desire to be the centre of attention. That means they are aware of everyone's secrets but have no desire to reveal them in a gossip session.

If you've ever heard juicy, dark secrets from your friends, acquaintances, or even complete strangers in line at the grocery store! And you think that the problem is with the person who shared it, not you. You're a shy extrovert. Because you don't want to be a part of someone else's drama.

You’re a Great Listener

The anxiety that comes with shyness can make it difficult to come up with conversation topics. You can't think at the moment, so it's normal if you're relieved when someone happily talks with you without demanding much input.

You learn a lot of interesting things if you listen carefully. Because you're prepared to sit back and just listen, you might build a new friendship. This is probably something that your friends love about you.

You Dislike Talking To Large Crowds

Do you get stage anxiety or jitters before any sort of performance or speech? You might believe that this is a clear sign that you're an introvert, but, even extroverts become nervous during public events! It's quite normal. It simply means that you care about how you appear to others and want them to like what you're doing or saying.

On stage, some extroverts are naturals, whereas shy extroverts are more uncomfortable. Shy extroverts would be more willing to interact with strangers on a one-on-one basis, where there is less pressure.

Unlike the uncertain nerve-wracking situation of public speaking, in a one-on-one conversation, you'd be able to get your message across more clearly and develop a unique bond with anybody you're speaking with.

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